GPS

Tonight when I got home from work a package was waiting for me. Match.com, yes the relationship where we are offiically seeing other people, sent me a GPS to replacce the one that was stolen last week. It was such a thoughtful gif- but quite a nice gift for someone who I am only casually seeing!

Becoming Official

As you know from my past post, I have been seeing Match.com, but last night it became official, we are seeing other people.



Christmas Day we went out and had a few too many. We had a very short discussion during which in became clear that we are not exclusive. The exact words were, "I am not seeing anyone else now, but I am still looking".



I have mixed feelings about this development. On one hand, it always sucks to hear that someone wants to be free to shop around, but on the other hand that is exactly what I have been doing, so I am being a bit hypocritical.



The problem is, I have really started to like Match.com. I enjoy spending time with him, he makes me laugh and we have both a physical and intellectual connection. So, even though I am sure to get my feelings hurt by this one, I am going to continue seeing him and still pursue other possible relationships.

Signs of a Single Woman

I had to make an emergency run to Target tonight. In my cart was kitty litter, a frozen pizza, diet coke and tampons.

Need I say more??

Multi-Tasking

True to my word that I would date Match.com while pursuing other possible relationships, I have a few men waiting in the wings.

Here is a quick run down:

The Attorney: Last week I met up with an e-harmony match who is an attorney. I got to the coffee shop early and was actually sick to my stomach. For some reason I was not looking forward to the coffee date. However, I was very suprised. We seemed to have a lot in common, he works for the city with child welfare. He was a theater major in college, before deciding to pursue a law career. He is funny and nice and we have another date planned for the Sunday after New Years, so he gets extra points for advanced planning!

PA: PA is another e-harmony match. We had finished the guided communication a while back and I had all but given up on hearing from him, when today I received his first email. I have written him back and we will see where it all goes.

There are three other people who I am in the early stages of communicating with, so there are potentially six men out there for me... not bad odds!

Match.com

During the past few months I have been dating Match.com. At first we were going out about once a week and talking exclusivly via email. When we get together we have a great time, going to the symphony, out to eat, and museums. Up until a few days ago, I considered this a very casual relationship that might have the potential to turn into something more.

Now I am wondering if there is a chance this will get more serious/exclusive.

First good sign: The other day we had our first real phone conversation. I had mentioned in one of my emails that I was having a crappy day and he called to check in and see what was going on.

Second good sign: He offered to make me dinner earlier this week and two days before he messed up his foot and ended up on crutches, not being able to put any weight on his right leg. He still went shopping and cooked me dinner- which was really sweet.

Thrid good sign: He asked me to spend Christmas Day with him.

Fourth good sign: On Thursday night, after our dinner my car got broken into outside his house. The driver's side window was shattered and my GPS was stolen. Because I was suppose to go over to his house again on Christmas Day he offered to come and get me, with bad foot and all, and let me borrow his car to go check in on my friend's cat, so I wouldn't be driving around without a window.

Stay tuned...

A few months after I moved to Cleveland I was at a party and met Justin. Justin had also just moved to Cleveland from Colorado. He had asked my friend, who was hosting the party for my number, but he never called. A week ago the same friend had another party and Justin was there. We chatted and he mentioned that some of his friends from Denver were coming into town so he was having a party and I should come.

Tonight, I went to the party, not thrilled about going to a party alone where I didn't know anyone. When I got to the party Justin introduced me to his friends from Colorado and one of the guys, Miguel, looked very familiar. I thought that I was just being crazy but then Miguel mentioned to Justin that I looked familiar and immediately I knew where I had met Miguel. He was Ken's neighbor and the three of us had hung out together once or twice.

Such a small world.

Dinner Date

I have had about four or five dates with my latest Match.com hookup and I have invited him over on Sunday for dinner. Yes, I am cooking dinner! I can only hope that this cooking adventure doesn't end up the way it did with the Wrestler- with me being stood up and left with a crap load of food. At least this time I am refusing to do any baking, so I won't be left with a pan full of brownies that I consume in one sitting.

For those followers who are foodies, yes spicy jalapeno, I am talking about you. I am making a pumpkin soup, salad and a roasted chicken in a pinot noir sauce.

Keep your fingers crossed that all goes well!!!

Friends First

My inbox tonight included the following message from my Friday night date:

"When do you get back from Denver? One of my buddies that I haven't seen in months just wrote that he can get together on Wednesday night. Not Tuesday, not Thursday, Wednesday. I leave for Puerto Rico on the 3rd, let me know when our calendars match up."

Without a "sorry" or "hope you understand" I was stood up for my Wednesday night date. His casual attitude about our fourth date makes me think that this relationship might be doomed before it begins.

I am not quite ready to give up on this one, but I am also not too optimistic.

Away from Home

Tonight my date asked me what it was like living "away from home." It is an interesting question because it is something I think about all the time yet don't have the words to describe the feeling. I miss my friends- yes spicy j- I miss you the most. I miss having the option of calling someone up at the last minute for happy hour. Not that I did that too often, but at least back home I had the option. Here, my friends are few and far between and while I have been dating quite a bit, sometimes, like tonight, it makes me feel more lonely than if I had just stayed home by myself in the first place.

So, tonight's date wasn't crazy or offensive like the dates I have written about in the past. He is a nice guy, someone who makes me laugh and can tell a really good story. We have been out three times and, if he stays true to his word, we will have a fourth date next week. But, I don't know, there was something sad about being left at the door on a Friday night.

Mr. Boring

In December of 2009 I moved from Denver to Cleveland for a job promotion and with the secret hope that perhaps the dating scene out here would be better than in Denver. Well, it is just as difficult here as it is in Denver and the scenery is definitely not as beautiful.

Since moving here I have had a few of the typical dates where I am intersd and he is not or vice versa, but nothing worth sharing. However, about a month ago I started seeing "Mr. Boring" who I met on O.K. Cupid. Now you might ask why I have been out with Boaring seven or eight times and I am ashamed to admit that it was just easy. Moving to a new place can be lonely and it was nice to have someone to go on hikes with. Best of all Boring doesn't expect anythign from me, and with a stressful job that is sometimes really nice.

Boring talks at length about nothing, often times repeating himself two or three times and I just sit and zone out. However lately it has become anoying. Our conversation tonight:

Boring: Hey, just called to see how you are feeling.
Me: Better, I am still tired, but not as sick as I was.
Boring: Are we still on for Sunday?
Me: Yes, sounds good. So, what are you up to tonight?
Boring: After work I mowed the lawn and took the dog for a walk. So, are you still up for doing something on Sunday?
Me: Yes, Sunday is great.
Boring: I took the dog for a walk and it was humid. I mowed the lawn and made some dinner.
Me: Humm
Boring: Are you free on Sunday?

At this point I was ready to shoot myself. So, basically this relationship is as exciting as this blog and now I need to end it which I am really bad at doing. Looks like Sunday is D-day...