Dead or Alive

It has been exactly a month since I was stood up by The Wrestler. The running joke with several of my friends is that it is unthinkable that he stood me up because he didn’t like me, so of course the reason must be that he is dead. Well, I got the “Closed” e-harmony message today. When I opened up the message a little bit of the scab that covered my ego was pealed away. His picture was at the top of his message and the reason he gave for closing the match was that he “is taking a break from dating.” Ok, fair enough, but he took a break from dating me almost a month ago, a more timely and perhaps personal delivery of this message would have been much appreciated!

If Wishes Were Fishes

I am the type of person who likes to make bets with herself and lately those bets have been revolving around City Park. It has been a long time since I have been out with someone like City Park. He is fun, he has a dark, sarcastic sense of humor and he gets my sense of humor. He also has this huge, great smile that he doesn’t show too often. For a while I have been dating people who either I am mentally attracted to that I am sexually attracted to, but not both. City Park, well I found both the mental and the physical attraction in him.

So, since our second date I have been a little obsessed with whether or not he is going to call again. I consistently check my blackberry, double check my voice mail messages and look for omens where they definitely don’t exist. Unfortunately he hasn’t responded to the email I sent him earlier today and he didn’t call tonight. I am hoping that he was just busy and will call in a day or so, but as they say: “If wishes were fishes…”

Safeway's Pretense

Here I am, days away from being 33 and I have to admit that I am no closer to understanding the dating game. A few weeks ago I went out with Safeway. I knew right away that while I might enjoy talking to him for an hour or so, this wasn’t going to be a match, especially when he told me that what impressed him about my profile was that I “wrote good” and that his ex-wife “didn’t speak English good.” However all throughout the date he made several mentions of a second date. He mentioned that he made killer mojitos and that he would have to make some for me one day. He mentioned that next time we might try a Cuban restaurant and other such comments. I didn’t want to say right then and there that I wasn’t interested in a second date, but I also didn’t want to lead him on. So, I nodded my head and smiled. Only a few hours after our date ended I got an email saying that Safeway had sent me a new message. I opened the message and there it was, “Safeway has decided to close this match because he wants to pursue other matches on eharmony.” This is what I don’t understand, why continually make references to another date when you have no intention of following though. He spent so much time and energy in trying to make me think that he was interested in seeing me again that if I had liked him I would have really been hurt. So my newest dating question is, why bother with pretenses??