Safeway's Pretense

Here I am, days away from being 33 and I have to admit that I am no closer to understanding the dating game. A few weeks ago I went out with Safeway. I knew right away that while I might enjoy talking to him for an hour or so, this wasn’t going to be a match, especially when he told me that what impressed him about my profile was that I “wrote good” and that his ex-wife “didn’t speak English good.” However all throughout the date he made several mentions of a second date. He mentioned that he made killer mojitos and that he would have to make some for me one day. He mentioned that next time we might try a Cuban restaurant and other such comments. I didn’t want to say right then and there that I wasn’t interested in a second date, but I also didn’t want to lead him on. So, I nodded my head and smiled. Only a few hours after our date ended I got an email saying that Safeway had sent me a new message. I opened the message and there it was, “Safeway has decided to close this match because he wants to pursue other matches on eharmony.” This is what I don’t understand, why continually make references to another date when you have no intention of following though. He spent so much time and energy in trying to make me think that he was interested in seeing me again that if I had liked him I would have really been hurt. So my newest dating question is, why bother with pretenses??